But I'm here to vent today.
So stop reading if you think this blog is going to have a happy ending.
I extremely dislike it when I ask an individual to do something (favor) and they agree and then when time comes to see if they have performed the task they have yet to do it.
For example: "Billy Jean can you walk the dog?
Billy Jean replys "Yes I can do that."
I have learned throughout time not to set specific deadlines for favors to be done by (kinda)...instead let the person whom I'm asking the favor determine when they'll have the task completed. (You'll see why in a bit) With that being said I'd then ask Billy Jean the following question: "When will you be done walking the dog?"
He then will answer I'll do it by (insert time frame here, ie: after this game is done.) At this point in time I'm usually content that someone whom I've asked to help has agreed to help. However it all goes downhill the moment I realize the game is done and rather than walking the dog after the game; as Billy Jean said he would he has started to play another game instead.
You see that's why I let Billy Jean pick his own deadline. That's why when asking for a favor you always ask the person for their own deadline. Because they're logically only going to answer something achievable and realistic. You as the favor-asker might think the favor is overly important and he or she should drop everything and do it the instant you ask. Shit doesn't work that way. Not only that but if the favor was really that important you should be doing it yourself.
The way I see it is I asked for the favor and although it is not your responsiblity to do the favor you have taken ownership by agreeing to do it. When I asked the question there were two options: yes and no. Can you...is asking if you're able to or willing to do it. Never in the question did it say you must or have to. The individual also (unconsciously) reconfirmed ownership of the favor when I asked when the favor will be done by. Because at this point Billy Jean could have still changed his mind and said nevermind I had a prior commitment I forgot about.
And I think that's what pisses me off the most about the favor not being done. It is the fact that you became the owner therefore it became your responsiblity. By not doing the favor you're not only irresponsible you're now also unreliable to me as well as immature. Billy Jean is irresponsible because he didn't do the favor he became owner of. Unreliable because I won't be able to rely on him in the future. Lastly immature because he choose to play another video game which happens to be a luxury over doing his new owned assignment.
This example is an extreme example. I'm really not that anal.
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